Transform Worry into Inner Peace

How to Calm Your Mind with Present-Moment Thinking

I was inspired to post this picture of me with my big 80’s hairstyle (look for it at the bottom of this post) after seeing Jennifer Valentyne’s 80’s hair picture on Instagram. (You rocked it Jenn!)

Big hair blowing in the wind aside, did you notice the caption of the article?

“13-year-old pulled friend from frozen Lake Simcoe”

Yup, that was me! I fell through the ice when I was 13 years old.

I had been playing on the ice of Lake Simcoe with two friends. I became bored and wandered off by myself. In an attempt to cure… Read More

Three Questions to Ask Yourself When Feeling Worried or Afraid

We’re in a storm the likes of which most of us have never seen before.

Storms are very normal in life. Storms happen in relationships, they happen in finances, and they happen with health.

Yet, the storm we are facing right now – this pandemic – could be called the “perfect storm” in that it’s impacting all areas of life in every part of the world.

In my online conversation last night, Doug Schneider said:

“While storms are very normal, what happens when we’re not used to going through them is we can begin to catastrophize.… Read More

CALM in this Pandemic

How afraid should people be in the midst of this pandemic?

In an interview on W5 last night, renowned Epidemiologist, Dr. Bruce Aylward, from the World Health Organization (W.H.O.) in Geneva, Switzerland said,

“We are watching an outbreak evolve so people should be concerned, they should be informed, they should be doing the right things and managing it; but, panicking is definitely not going to help.

You panic when you’re on a sinking boat in the middle of the ocean with no lifeboat and you can’t swim. This isn’t that situation.

We know… Read More

Stay Encouraged. Victory is Coming Your Way!

Get this . . .

Margaret Marek became a first-time mom at the age of 93!

. . . and I thought I’d waited a long time for some of my dreams to happen!

How does a 93-year-old woman become a mom?

Well, at the age of 93, Margaret married Mel. Mel was an 89-year-old widower. On the day they were married, Margaret became a (step)mom to Mel’s two grown sons and a grandmother to his four grandchildren—which included my two daughters, Lindsay and Brianna.

Her new sons and grandchildren visited, called, and sent her cards and flowers every Mother’s… Read More

The Power of Stepping Away

Take a look at the picture at the bottom of this post . . .

Notice how by “stepping away,” others are protected too?

Sometimes, by stepping away, you protect yourself – AND – your integrity, your values, your health, your wealth, your family, your business, and more!

Stepping away isn’t always easy. Yet, when you look at the big picture of the consequences of staying put—and the benefits of leaving that something behind—it gives you the strength to take those first steps . . .

. . . and those first few steps can seem the most challenging.

Is there something—or… Read More

A Cure for Perfectionism: How to Halt Unrealistically High Expectations

Are you a perfectionist? Are you a recovering perfectionist? Are you not responding because you’re afraid of answering incorrectly?

Whatever your answer may be, one thing is certain . . .

Perfectionism breeds worry.

Think of it this way, if you’re a perfectionist where work is concerned, you may find yourself worrying about making mistakes, being rejected, losing the sale, or being anything other than number one in your field. If you are consumed by achieving the perfect appearance, you’ll likely worry about aging, your weight, or your wardrobe.

I realize that striving for perfection does have its place. At… Read More

The Stress-Eating Cycle: Why you get sucked in and how to get out!

So you’ve committed (and recommitted) to sticking to your healthy eating plan.

But . . .

You feel stressed (bored, overwhelmed, tired), so . . .

You eat a donut (a cupcake, a cookie) or two . . . or twelve.

You feel relief . . . for a while.

The relief wears off and regret sets in.

The regret triggers more stress and . . . you reach for those darn comfort foods again!

Why did it happen?

I mean . . .

. . . you knew what you had planned to eat that day.

. . .… Read More

The “Worry Gene” and Sound Advice from Walt Disney

Is worry genetic?

The answer is . . .

YES!

The discovery of a “worry-gene” made front-page news of the New York Times. The article reported a study published by the journal Science. It turns out, there is a certain gene associated with worry.

This gene (specifically, gene SLC6A4 on chromosome 17q12) has a long version and a short version.

If you get the short end of the stick – I mean, the short version of this gene – from either one of your parents, you’re likely to be more prone to worry, anxiety, and negative thinking.

So what does… Read More

Five Steps to Control Your Thoughts . . . So Your Thoughts Don’t Control You!

I was dressed and ready to drive to the studio where I hosted a morning TV show. Before leaving the house, I had to take the trash to the curb for collection. As I neared the end of my driveway, I tripped and fell.

I hit the pavement so hard that my hands and knees were bleeding.

I went back into the house and, feeling sorry for myself, I was just about to cry.

I thought, “Denise, you have a choice. You can choose to continue feeling sorry for yourself, or you can choose to make today the best day… Read More

The SNEAKY Way You Sabotage Your Goals: AND why this will be the year you finally succeed!

Ever wonder why, in the past, you didn’t stick to your goal to: lose weight, quit smoking, stop drinking, or whatever else it is you’ve been trying to achieve  . . .

Even though you really, really, REALLY wanted to?

It wasn’t because you didn’t know what to do.

I’ll bet you knew exactly what to do. You probably even had the plan to follow – or – at the very least, you knew how to figure out where to get it!

So what was it?

1) What stopped you?

AND, more importantly . . .

2) How can… Read More