A Cure for Perfectionism: How to Halt Unrealistically High Expectations

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Are you a perfectionist? Are you a recovering perfectionist? Are you not responding because you’re afraid of answering incorrectly?

Whatever your answer may be, one thing is certain . . .

Perfectionism breeds worry.

Think of it this way, if you’re a perfectionist where work is concerned, you may find yourself worrying about making mistakes, being rejected, losing the sale, or being anything other than number one in your field. If you are consumed by achieving the perfect appearance, you’ll likely… Read More

The Stress-Eating Cycle: Why you get sucked in and how to get out!

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So you’ve committed (and recommitted) to sticking to your healthy eating plan.

But . . .

You feel stressed (bored, overwhelmed, tired), so . . .

You eat a donut (a cupcake, a cookie) or two . . . or twelve.

You feel relief . . . for a while.

The relief wears off and regret sets in.

The regret triggers more stress and . . . you reach for those darn comfort foods again!

Why did it happen?

I mean… Read More

The “Worry Gene” and Sound Advice from Walt Disney

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Is worry genetic?

The answer is . . .

YES!

The discovery of a “worry-gene” made front-page news of the New York Times. The article reported a study published by the journal Science. It turns out, there is a certain gene associated with worry.

This gene (specifically, gene SLC6A4 on chromosome 17q12) has a long version and a short version.

If you get the short end of the stick – I mean, the short version of this gene – from either… Read More

Five Steps to Control Your Thoughts . . . So Your Thoughts Don’t Control You!

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I was dressed and ready to drive to the studio where I hosted a morning TV show. Before leaving the house, I had to take the trash to the curb for collection. As I neared the end of my driveway, I tripped and fell.

I hit the pavement so hard that my hands and knees were bleeding.

I went back into the house and, feeling sorry for myself, I was just about to cry.

I thought, “Denise, you have a choice.… Read More

The SNEAKY Way You Sabotage Your Goals: AND why this will be the year you finally succeed!

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Ever wonder why, in the past, you didn’t stick to your goal to: lose weight, quit smoking, stop drinking, or whatever else it is you’ve been trying to achieve  . . .

Even though you really, really, REALLY wanted to?

It wasn’t because you didn’t know what to do.

I’ll bet you knew exactly what to do. You probably even had the plan to follow – or – at the very least, you knew how to figure out where to get… Read More

How to Create an Extraordinary Life . . . Even When You’re Not Feeling So Extraordinary

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Do you know what tomorrow will look like for you? If you’re like most people, tomorrow will look a lot like today does – in the same way today looks a lot like yesterday did. For most, tomorrow will be filled with the same story, the same characters, and the same scenery as you travel the same route to work with the same thoughts running through your mind. You’ll likely even feel the same way tomorrow that you feel today. In… Read More

Answers to the Top Five Questions I’m Asked through Social Media and After Speaking Engagements

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Can you guess which questions I’m most frequently asked through social media and after speaking engagements? Well, here they are:

How do you get your teeth so white? How did you become a professional speaker? How old are you? How did you get your books published? Are you always this positive?

I’m answering these questions here for two reasons: One, maybe you’ve wanted to ask me one, some, or all of these questions because you’re curious . . . in which… Read More

Are You Trying to Get the Harvest Before You Plant the Seed?

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Are you trying to get a harvest before you planted the seed? Imagine your life, your goal, your dream is a seed. In order for it to grow, you need to plant it. Planting that seed means putting it in the soil to grow.

That’s where most dreams die . . . in the soil. The reason is, it can be lonely and dark in the soil. It can bring up feelings of uncertainty, doubt, or disappointment. That’s when we become… Read More

How to Get Rid of Clutter to Calm Your Mind

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Physical clutter equals mind clutter. Donate, recycle, or discard those things you no longer need, use, or love.

Take a deep breath and exhale very slowly. As you exhale, imagine blowing away all your worries, concerns, and tension. Allow your muscles to relax, and begin to breathe at your regular pace. Now imagine you’re in a calm, relaxing, and peaceful place. That place might be a sandy beach on a warm summer’s day, or the woods on a… Read More

The Boomerang Effect

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I was sitting in my car at a gas station on the corner of a busy intersection watching the line of cars stopped at a stoplight. Two teen-aged boys sat in the first car stopped at the light. The teenager in the passenger seat threw a pop can out of his window. Immediately after, the driver in the car behind the teens jumped out of his vehicle, picked up the pop can, tossed it back through the teenager’s window and got… Read More