Live a Life You Love

Finding the Positive in Difficult Situations

In these challenging times it can be hard to manage our feelings and find the happiness in the every day. Jennifer Valentyne interviewed me on Global News this morning to find the positive in difficult situations.

How can we be happy during this time of uncertainty?

In talking about “finding happiness”, we need to expose the myth of happiness.

The Happiness Myth:

The myth is that we’re supposed to be happy all of the time; and, when we’re feeling unhappy it means something is wrong.

The problem with this widely held belief is that it creates more… Read More

Reasons For Hope

If you’ve read Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, you’ll know it to be a book about survival. Frankl miraculously survived the network of Nazi concentration and extermination camps.

While there are numerous ideas in this book for changing a person’s life, the message that stands out for me today is that of hope.

Frankl describes how prisoners died less from lack of food or medicine, than from a lack of hope and a lack of something to live for.

He describes a particularly bad day in the camp. He knew encouragement was needed now more than ever. As the… Read More

Easing the Burden of Financial Worries During the Pandemic

David’s closing words ignited more peace and hope than I could have imagined!

There were just about five minutes left in my online interview with Mortgage Agent, David Imler. I was live streaming the show and David’s image froze. Since we had already covered the strategies I’d promised viewers by this point, I decided it would be a good time to end the episode.

Little did I know the best was yet to come . . .

This episode focused on helping people to reduce their financial stress during the pandemic. To close the show,… Read More

How to Calm Your Mind with Present-Moment Thinking

I was inspired to post this picture of me with my big 80’s hairstyle (look for it at the bottom of this post) after seeing Jennifer Valentyne’s 80’s hair picture on Instagram. (You rocked it Jenn!)

Big hair blowing in the wind aside, did you notice the caption of the article?

“13-year-old pulled friend from frozen Lake Simcoe”

Yup, that was me! I fell through the ice when I was 13 years old.

I had been playing on the ice of Lake Simcoe with two friends. I became bored and wandered off by myself. In an attempt to cure… Read More

Three Questions to Ask Yourself When Feeling Worried or Afraid

We’re in a storm the likes of which most of us have never seen before.

Storms are very normal in life. Storms happen in relationships, they happen in finances, and they happen with health.

Yet, the storm we are facing right now – this pandemic – could be called the “perfect storm” in that it’s impacting all areas of life in every part of the world.

In my online conversation last night, Doug Schneider said:

“While storms are very normal, what happens when we’re not used to going through them is we can begin to catastrophize.… Read More

The Power of Stepping Away

Take a look at the picture at the bottom of this post . . .

Notice how by “stepping away,” others are protected too?

Sometimes, by stepping away, you protect yourself – AND – your integrity, your values, your health, your wealth, your family, your business, and more!

Stepping away isn’t always easy. Yet, when you look at the big picture of the consequences of staying put—and the benefits of leaving that something behind—it gives you the strength to take those first steps . . .

. . . and those first few steps can seem the most challenging.

Is there something—or… Read More

A Cure for Perfectionism: How to Halt Unrealistically High Expectations

Are you a perfectionist? Are you a recovering perfectionist? Are you not responding because you’re afraid of answering incorrectly?

Whatever your answer may be, one thing is certain . . .

Perfectionism breeds worry.

Think of it this way, if you’re a perfectionist where work is concerned, you may find yourself worrying about making mistakes, being rejected, losing the sale, or being anything other than number one in your field. If you are consumed by achieving the perfect appearance, you’ll likely worry about aging, your weight, or your wardrobe.

I realize that striving for perfection does have its place. At… Read More

Answers to the Top Five Questions I’m Asked through Social Media and After Speaking Engagements

Can you guess which questions I’m most frequently asked through social media and after speaking engagements? Well, here they are:

How do you get your teeth so white? How did you become a professional speaker? How old are you? How did you get your books published? Are you always this positive?

I’m answering these questions here for two reasons: One, maybe you’ve wanted to ask me one, some, or all of these questions because you’re curious . . . in which case I’m happy to appease your curiosity! Two, maybe you’ve wanted to ask me one, some, or all of… Read More

Are You Trying to Get the Harvest Before You Plant the Seed?

Are you trying to get a harvest before you planted the seed? Imagine your life, your goal, your dream is a seed. In order for it to grow, you need to plant it. Planting that seed means putting it in the soil to grow.

That’s where most dreams die . . . in the soil. The reason is, it can be lonely and dark in the soil. It can bring up feelings of uncertainty, doubt, or disappointment. That’s when we become afraid and dig the seed back up.

Resist digging up in doubt what you planted in faith. Trust the… Read More

The Boomerang Effect

I was sitting in my car at a gas station on the corner of a busy intersection watching the line of cars stopped at a stoplight. Two teen-aged boys sat in the first car stopped at the light. The teenager in the passenger seat threw a pop can out of his window. Immediately after, the driver in the car behind the teens jumped out of his vehicle, picked up the pop can, tossed it back through the teenager’s window and got back into his car. The light turned green and they all drove away.

The whole scene fascinated me and… Read More